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Thursday, August 24, 2017

Bear Hugs and Football Love

With children who have experienced trauma or an institutional beginning in life, there are many unknowns that can surface at any given moment.  Laughs can turn to tears in a finger's snap.  Feelings are overflowing above the surface or stuffed deep down in a hope to hide the pain. Fragile.  Sensitive. Growing.  Learning.  Children from hard places have been through so much!

My gentle one loves to take a break and go into his room when things get difficult for him.  In his room, he has his giant brown teddy bear that we gave him for his first birthday home with our family. I wanted something different, something to stand out.  Where would one go to find something BIG? Cosco!  With the large boxes of cereal and big stacks of toilet paper was this ginormous bear.  My guy loves bears so we strapped the thing in literally into our middle seat with seat belt and drove home with our new furry passenger.  When our son needs a quiet place to sort through his thoughts, he loves to lay down with his big, giant, bear.

I hung up some birthday decor for him today in his bedroom.  His theme this year, his second birthday home, was the Seattle Seahawks--the NFL football team.  He likes Russel Wilson.  A Seahawks pennant banner helped complete the birthday party decor, and today, I rehung the pennant banner in his room.

My hope is that on days that are hard, in moments that overwhelm, he can rest in his quiet and safe room.  When he looks at the big smile on his big brown bear he will remember a happy day celebrating his first birthday home and this huge surprise waiting for him at the end of a fun treasure hunt.  I hope he will look up and see the football decor and think about all of his family around the dinner table celebrating him and his life and know he is loved.

The happy things won't take away the pain completely, but they can provide a reminder of loving, happy times even when things don't seem to go the way he wanted them to.  They can bring perspective and balance and hope that some moment soon--happy times will return again.  He can snuggle up to his big bear, look up to his Seattle Seahawks football pennant banner, and know he is loved and wanted.

The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love;

    I have drawn you with unfailing kindness."

Jeremiah 31:3

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Number One and Number Two

My two girls were joking around with each other before bedtime.

Singing, "I am number one and you are number two!"

(from Muppets Most Wanted movie)

Response Declaration:  "No!  I am number one and you are number two!"

Singing, "No, I am number one and you are number two-ooo"

Response:  "No, you are number two!  You have it on the back of your shirt!"

"Con-bon!  You're always number two!, she ended the conversation with.

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

When one touches the football, we all touch the football...

Former coach Pepper Rogers of Hall of Fame player, the minister of defense, Reggie White, would run this play in practice when he was a coach of the Philadelphia Eagles.

He would have the quarterback drop back and let go of a long bomb to a receiver waiting in the end zone.  The receiver would catch the football and hold the ball high up over his head.  The rest of the team would then come and everyone would need to touch the football to end the play.

The play was done to remind each player that everyone on the team was important--no matter what your position was or how big a role was in each game.  The team wins or the team loses--together.

Wouldn't this be great to bring back?

Friday, August 18, 2017

Colored People

Colored People by DC Talk

Pardon me, your epidermis is showing, mister
I couldn't help but note your shade of melanin
I tip my hat to the colorful arrangement
Cause I see the beauty in the tones of our skin

We've gotta come together
And thank the Maker of us all

We're colored people, and we live in a tainted place
We're colored people, and they call us the human race
We've got a history so full of mistakes
And we are colored people who depend on a Holy Grace

[1, 1, 1, 1... 2, 2, 2, 2... 3, 3, 3, 3... 4, 4, 4, 4]

A piece of canvas is only the beginning for
It takes on character with every loving stroke
This thing of beauty is the passion of an Artist's heart
By God's design, we are a skin kaleidoscope

We've gotta come together,
Aren't we all human after all?

(repeat chorus)

Ignorance has wronged some races
And vengeance is the Lord's
If we aspire to share this space
Repentance is the cure

[1, 1, 1, 1... 2, 2, 2, 2... 3, 3, 3, 3... 4, 4, 4, 4]

Well, just a day in the shoes of a color blind man
Should make it easy for you to see
That these diverse tones do more than cover our bones
As a part of our anatomy

(repeat chorus)

We're colored people, and they call us the human race
[Oh, colored people]
We're colored people, and we all gotta share this space
[Yeah we've got to come together somehow]
We're colored people, and we live in a tainted world
[Red and yellow, black and white]
We're colored people, every man, woman, boy, and girl
[Colored people, colored people, colored people, colored people, yeah]